I talked a bit a month or so ago about challenging myself to understand what the hype was. I’ve been watching the Bachelorette. Now, I haven’t been keeping up with it faithfully. I’m totally guilty about letting episodes build up in my Hulu que and bulk watching them. But! After a crazy ass season of this show, it’s over!
Going into the finale, my two favorite guys of the season were there. I get Ashley, I don’t always like her or think the best of her, but I understand her.
Ben was the guy who stepped out of the limo that I wished I could go on a date with. He was fun and goofy and a really cool guy. JP was the too-good-to-be-true guy that just seemed so beyond real. When she had the pajama date with him, he won me over completely.
Now, spoilers, if you haven’t seen the finale yet, don’t read further.
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Was Ben’s monologue about each day better than the one before and his infinite confidence in them heartbreaking? He agonized over the ring. He daydreamed about them. Her family loved him without question. Watching him leave and how heartbroken he was at the end was sad. But honestly, you don’t want to marry yourself, and Ben’s goofy side and their charisma was from the same stock. For him as a person, I hope he goes on to better things in life. I’d volunteer to comfort him.
For me, when JP gave Ashley the photo book of them together, that was when I pegged him as “the one”. I don’t know that I believe that she deserves him, but he was the man of the season. He acted with grace and honor and was really awesome all season. Watching him picking out the rings, I was worried that he might back out. He got hit hard by her family. He had that whole big spiel to say, laying out his concerns, their journey, how he felt. Was anyone else wondering up until the last second when he finally asked her? Dear Lord, the man has a thing for dramatics!!
In the end, I’m happy for them. I hope that not everyone is as skeptical as television romance as I am and that for them, it’s a real life happily ever after. Without cameras plaguing them the rest of their lives.