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It’s Over! The Bachelorette challenge is done.

Dear Reader,

I talked a bit a month or so ago about challenging myself to understand what the hype was.  I’ve been watching the Bachelorette.  Now, I haven’t been keeping up with it faithfully.  I’m totally guilty about letting episodes build up in my Hulu que and bulk watching them.  But!  After a crazy ass season of this show, it’s over!

Going into the finale, my two favorite guys of the season were there.  I get Ashley, I don’t always like her or think the best of her, but I understand her.

Ben was the guy who stepped out of the limo that I wished I could go on a date with.  He was fun and goofy and a really cool guy.  JP was the too-good-to-be-true guy that just seemed so beyond real.  When she had the pajama date with him, he won me over completely.

Now, spoilers, if you haven’t seen the finale yet, don’t read further.

Still with me?

Was Ben’s monologue about each day better than the one before and his infinite confidence in them heartbreaking?  He agonized over the ring.  He daydreamed about them.  Her family loved him without question.  Watching him leave and how heartbroken he was at the end was sad.  But honestly, you don’t want to marry yourself, and Ben’s goofy side and their charisma was from the same stock.  For him as a person, I hope he goes on to better things in life.  I’d volunteer to comfort him.

For me, when JP gave Ashley the photo book of them together, that was when I pegged him as “the one”.  I don’t know that I believe that she deserves him, but he was the man of the season.  He acted with grace and honor and was really awesome all season.  Watching him picking out the rings, I was worried that he might back out.  He got hit hard by her family.  He had that whole big spiel to say, laying out his concerns, their journey, how he felt.  Was anyone else wondering up until the last second when he finally asked her?  Dear Lord, the man has a thing for dramatics!!

In the end, I’m happy for them.  I hope that not everyone is as skeptical as television romance as I am and that for them, it’s a real life happily ever after.  Without cameras plaguing them the rest of their lives.

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Reality and Love

Dear Reader,

I’ve never watched the Bachelor or the Bachelorette.  The only reality dating show I’ve ever been interested in was the Millionaire Match-Maker.  I decided that I was going to give this season of the Bachelorette a go.  Why not?  It’s TV.  I can stream it at work, and I’ll understand what the big deal about it is.

Right now I’m on episode 3 and I kind of wish I hadn’t challenged myself to watch it.  I might get behind on the show, but I’ll watch it.  I might not like it, but my stubborn personality won’t let me stop now.

Beyond that, lets talk about the Bachelorette.  I like the chick on the show.  She’s a little no holds barred, but she clearly states that she wants to hold nothing back.  I respect that.  I doubt I could be like that, but for her it works.  For me it’s the guys who break the show.  They somehow find a large group of attractive, stable men – who are also huge romantics, whole heartedly in it to find true love.  What skeletons are in their closet?  This season there’s some business with a particular man who is on the show for the wrong reasons and in my humble opinion is a huge frikken douche bag.

The concept of the show is cool.  Go on a show, meet the man of your dreams, fall in love and walk into the sunset.

That’s what happens in books.  Yes, it happens in real life, but the idea that a reality show will be the setting to find the perfect complement seems a little silly to me.  How many people are going to be able to open up and talk to you about the really difficult things – with a camera in your face?  However, it’s not easy to meet people.  Once upon a time my dad would have sold me off as a wife.  These days we’re left to our own devices as women to meet men.

Once I was told by a professor that since I was graduating and not dating anyone, I had a 5% chance of meeting someone and falling in love after college.  That was a head trip!  I’m cautious when it comes to relationships.  To say I’ve been burned is an understatement.  Us normal gals don’t have the opportunity to go on a TV show and meet a pool of men.  We have to work with what’s around us.  Who we meet in our every day lives.  If you’re adventurous, getting a friend or family member to hook you up or internet dating.  You have to decide what works for you.

As nice as the guys on the Bachelorette are to look at, I think I would run in the opposite direction were I ever on a date with them.  They’re too extremely hooked on the idea of love completing their life.  In my opinion, love enhances your life.  It’s not a basic necessity you must have to survive, but it makes it better.  It’s why romance books are awesome.  Finding love is an Easter Egg hunt.  You don’t know if you’re next date is your last first date or not, but you know that at the end of your book you’re getting a HEA.

I’ve kind of bounced all across the board here.  The Bachelorette is a cool show to watch, I kind of want to gag some of the guys, but it’s an interesting concept.  I wouldn’t have thought a show where all the guys want to be with the same girl and knowing the same girl had possibly kissed or more with a guy they’re sharing a room with.  However, props to them for going for it.  And, I want to go to Thailand again.


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